Saturday, April 12, 2008

Why I Haven't Posted


It's simple: writing this blog was becoming an obsession. I began going through the day thinking of things I would write about and it was becoming difficult for me to discern whether they were truly interesting or simply Seinfeld-like musings.

So here is the thing: I am committed to my coaching practice and to helping people live meaningful lives. Spend some time on my past entries: clutter, self-care, death, divorce, time management, love and more.
And, if you are interested in learning more about coaching, visit my website http://www.coachingpartnerships.com/. If you would like a complimentary session you can reach me through the website.
I'll be back when the time is right.

I wish you the best--Gari

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

My Gift to You


I have a gift for anyone who wants it:
A Complimentary Coaching Session
Coaching is a series of one-on-one conversations between you and a trained personal life coach. Together, we examine opportunities, or obstacles, in your life, strategizing around single issues or lifestyle choices. With your coach, you set a series of goals and design strategies tomeet--or exceed!--them.
Since coaching is done on the telephone, not face-to-face, it can be done from anywhere. We talk two or three times monthly in scheduled appointments to focus on issues of concern to you. Changes and shifts come through clear questions from your coach and thoughtful responses from you.

The process always begins with a complimentary session. In this session we talk about what coaching is and how it works. More importantly, we discuss something that may be on your mind so that you can see how the strategies progress. It is important to remember that together we can tackle large life-style or philosophical quality of life concepts or be very issue-specific.

Drop me an email, or give me a call to claim your life-changing gift today.

gari@coachingpartnerships.com or visit my website: www.coachingpartnerships.com

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Super Tuesday


Frank Rich said it oh-so-well in this morning's NY Times. The article, Ask Not What JFK Can Do for Obama is perfect!

For those of you voting on Tuesday, I wish you clarity combined with faith. I am looking toward what may be possible: a new day and a new way of being a politician and an American.

Happily, I am an Obama Mama.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Free Rice


This site came my way and I am hooked! It is called Free Rice. When you visit the site you test your vocabulary. With each correct click of the mouse, 20 grains of rice will be donated through the United Nations to end world hunger. Who is paying for the rice? The advertisers you see at the bottom of the screen. This is a convergence of good, charitable work, self-improvement, fun, capitalism and the medium we all seem to be connected to – the internet.

Read the FAQ’s – they explain it all so well. Then start clicking.

PS- pass this far and wide – especially to the high school kids we know and love.

Monday, January 28, 2008

Life of Ease


I have a wish for you. It is the same one I hold for my coaching clients, friends and loved ones. I wish you a life of ease.

It sounds naïve doesn’t it? We all know that life is not easy.

But here is the ease I am talking about. It is living a life that is in sync with your natural rhythms, values and desires. I see it as an energy-thing. As you create a life of ease you are free-er to do the big work in the world. How do you lead your day? What personal systems do you have in place? What time you get to sleep? How do you manage time? These things can either flow or trip you up.

I am not talking about a life of ease equaling a life of irresponsibility. I am actually working toward taking more responsibility in attending to our daily lives. Is this a paradox? Maybe so. No one said attaining a life of ease was going to be easy…Let’s talk.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

1 Day = $720 Million


My friend helped produce a video for the American Friends Service Committee and it is worth looking at. This will take 2 min of your time and could really help AFSC. They need signatures on a petition and folks to watch this video on the actual cost of war. The more views, the more likely we get on the homepage of youtube, which is the goal. That way we aren't preaching to the choir. The video is interesting and your two minutes will be well spent.This is a quick and easy way to actively participate in the effort to end the war and help bring peace to Iraq. Pass this on to your friendsand folks that would be interested.

Here is the link to the clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wnq6cD5jk1QAFSC is asking all friends and supporters to- watch this video (at least once)- rate it (be honest) and- send it to your whole network of friends and family with the same message. After you view the video and send it to your friends, if you have a few more moments, please sign the petition to Congress to DEFUND theIraq War and RE-FUND human needs at home and in Iraq:

What if this really did make a difference and we pushed the candidates and the election wave instead of simply watching and waiting for Georgie to leave?

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

I Kid You Not: Kale Chips


These really-good-for you kale chips are easy to make and taste like potato chips. For real!

Kale Chips
Prep Time: 5 minutes
Cooking Time: 10 minutes
Yields: 4 servings
Ingredients:1-2 bunches of kale
Olive oil
Directions:
1.Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
2.Remove kale from stalk, leaving the greens in large pieces.
3.Place a little olive oil in a bowl, dip your fingers and rub a very light coat of oil over the kale.
4.Lay out on a baking sheet and bake for 5 minutes or until it starts to turn a bit brown. Keep an eye on the kale, it can burn quickly. Turn the kale over and bake with the other side up. Remove and serve.

Variations: Try different kinds of kale or collard greens. You can sprinkle with a little salt or spice such as curry or cumin after rubbing on olive oil for a little added flavor.

Friday, January 18, 2008

Call to Action - MLK Day


This weekend we celebrate the birth of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Sadly, he died right as I was coming of age so my most vivid memory of him is his assassination. However my defining image of Washington DC is the rally at the reflecting pool and the “I Have a Dream” speech. Aside from the Watergate building, that is Washington, DC to me.

In the Philadelphia area we are asked to “Make it a Day On, Not a Day Off” by performing some kind of community service. Todd Bernstein, the director of the Greater Philadelphia Martin Luther King Day of Service describes the genesis of MLK Day:

In 1994, former Pennsylvania U.S. Senator Harris Wofford and Atlanta Congressman John Lewis, both veterans of the civil rights movement with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., co-authored the King Holiday and Service Act, which calls on Americans of all backgrounds and ages to celebrate Dr. King’s legacy by transforming the federal holiday into one of turning community concerns into citizen action. This federal legislation was signed into law by President Bill Clinton, creating the national Martin Luther King Day of Service.

The organization coordinates many opportunities throughout the region and from what the website says, it is not too late to register.

VolunteerMatch is a robust on-line directory of volunteer opportunities nation-wide. Punch in your zip code and select from a large list of needs right near you. Good news: there are so many good organizations doing important work in the world. Bad news: there is a need for so many good organizations to do important work in the world.

Local churches and synagogues are partnering to provide community service for community members. Check out some programs near you.

I am grateful that our culture honors Dr. King’s legacy and that this long weekend is designed to be one of reflection and action. President’s Day, Veteran’s Day, Columbus Day, Memorial Day all provide us with fabulous sales as we are encouraged to shop for linens and washing machines. Martin Luther King Day encourages us to provide for others.

Amen.

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Blessings Abound


Sometimes, in the daily mess of life we forget one true thing: we are individual wonders of creation. We are blessings to those who know and love us and have the ability to bring change, repair and joy to the world in small and large ways.

These tiny scrolls by a company called Blessings Abound can serve as reminders to us and to those we love. They come in two sizes, but the teeny ones appeal to me the most. These are pocket versions of blessings, sized 1- 1/4'”x 8 -½”. Your choices include:

I Celebrate Your Joy
Seek Peace and Pursue It
You Are a Blessing
This Too Shall Pass
Peace be With You

And they are reasonable too: $4.00 each/ $7.50 for pairs.

Creativity, spirituality and gratitude, literally rolled into one.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Quote Collector?


Some people are avid quote collectors. I am not one of them but I certainly appreciate a good quote when I read it. I have begun quote collecting for a project I am working on and received this one yesterday.


I love it.


Imagination is everything, it’s the preview of life’s coming attractions.

Albert Einstein

Monday, January 14, 2008

Hormones in Milk 1


This comes to us from award-winning environmental educator and writer, Mike Weilbacher. He wrote this in response to some questions he received regarding hormones in milk. He says this all better than I can. My 2 cents have to do with being a breast cancer survivor and my own vigilance about eating only hormone-free food products.


Here's Mike:

I've enjoyed reading the thread of commentary on PA's requirement, starting Feb 1, that milk be no longer be labeled free of anything, like 'hormone fee' or 'pesticide free.' Coincidentally, I had just been reading up on this for commentary on WHYY's "Morning Edition," and thought I'd add some additional layers to the conversation.

First, the state says it is misleading to label milk 'free' of something, implying that milk free of, say, hormones is somehow better than milk that is not, even though the FDA claims there is no health risk from synthetic bovine growth hormone (called rBGH, or recombinant bovine growth hormone) in milk, and consumers have been confused. Fine. But the state also could not present any consumers who were in fact confused-- contrary to what our Secretary of Agriculture says, consumers have not clamored for this labeling; industry has. So the whole premise of this is suspicious.

Second, Europe and Canada have already banned rBGH milk hormones in it, so our milk cannot be exported to many other countries. What do the Europeans know that we seem to miss?

Third, rBGH increases milk production by 10-15%, and separate from the hormone itself, raises other issues. One is that the lifespan of cows may be diminished, as they are milked more vigorously than otherwise and I guess are dying from exhaustion. rBGH becomes short term gain at the cost of the long-term health of the herd. In addition, increased milking leads to a higher incidence of mastitis, infection of the udders. With apologies for perhaps grossing us out, this leads to higher levels of pus in our milk-- at high levels, the infection changes milk visually so that milk does not make it to market, but at lower levels, it's fairly undetectable. And to treat mastitis, farmers put antibiotics in the feed, which ends up in our milk as well, and many physicians and health experts are concerned about high levels of antibiotics in our food.

Additionally, milk made with synthetic hormones shows higher levels of IGF, insulin growth factor, which can be even 10x higher in rBGH milk. Health activists claim this chemical, not the hormone itself, increases risks of prostate, breast and colon cancer, and correlates to a higher tendency of people to give birth to twins. It's IGF that may be the health risk, not rBGH.

Finally, with farmers having to inject each cow with rBGH every two weeks, add antibiotics to feed to combat mastitis, and replace cows more frequently, it's hard for family-run dairy farms to survive, and activists point out that Monsanto's rBGH has contributed measurably to the loss of family farms.

The first rule of ecology is "you can never do just one thing." Adding rBGH does one thing well, but has a ripple of effects through the food chain. So everyone, including PA's ag secretary, who says rBGH milk is safe is technically correct in that no study seems to point to higher risk from the hormone itself. But we need to take into consideration the entire ripple-- and again, one has to wonder why Europe bans it outright while America paves the way for increased use...

For those worried about milk and this issue, the easiest solution is to simply buy milk labeled organic-- that milk will always be pesticide- and hormone-free, and can blessedly be exported anywhere in the world.

Thursday, January 10, 2008

How far Do I Go?

On New Year’s Day I was happily walking my 4 year-old, rescued, Bichon Frise, Max, when he was attacked by two huge dogs being walked by (what I found out later) a dog-walking service. The walker left the scene in a hurry and Max limped home. He and I spent the entire day and well into the night in the ER at the University of Pennsylvania Vet School. We left at 1:30 AM, January 2nd with drains placed in the two punctures, tons of stitches, antiobiotics and pain med.

I was determined to find the owner of these two dogs and found her through our friendly mailman. There were two things the owner needed to know: One was that whoever was walking the gorgeous Great Dane and Other Huge Black Dog could not control these two mammoth animals and that other dogs and kids were at risk. The second was the cost of my vet bill. The owner, an elderly woman, was mortified and very upset, ready to write me a check but then realized that the dog-walking service was insured and bonded. Maybe we should go in that direction.

That’s where this story really begins. The owner of the service was awful! I needed her to know that her walker had no control of these dogs thereby putting, people, dogs and her business in jeopardy. Suffice to say that even her insurance company told me that she was horrible to them, making them want to work on my behalf instead of hers! Clearly she is stupid, especially since her business thrives on word of mouth.

So here is the dilemma. How far do I go with negative word of mouth? After all it is someone’s living. Do I post her business name on my blog? On all the local listserves I am a member of? Do I pitch a story to the local paper on choosing a dog-walking service? Do I paper the neighborhood with flyers stuck in doors? I’ve been thinking, eh? How far do I go to compromise someone’s livelihood?

PS—Max will be fine. He is an awesome dog.

Monday, January 7, 2008

Self-Care Support

If you are in the Philadelphia area, consider attending this program. If you are not, I will be making this available by group conference call -- just let me know.
I am offering a program through the Yoga Garden in Narberth. It is a Self-Care Support group that will meet once a week for 6 weeks to kick-start your self-care goals for the coming year. It will be a true give and take of collective wisdom on issues that weigh us down: fitness, sleep, nutrition, time management, clutter and more.
You know how clear we always are with another person’s issues?

Now you will have the opportunity to share your smarts and help others along the way to increased self-care, while you benefit from the group as well. Size will be limited to 12 people

Here are the details:

Six Fridays beginning January 18th from 12 noon-1:15 at the Yoga Garden in Narberth
Cost is $100 for six sessions, paid in advance.
Commitment to attending all six sessions is requested.
Bonus! Complimentary coaching session to help tease out issues for you.

If this time does not work for you, new groups can be formed. Are you looking for an evening group?

I don't know why self-care is so hard -- I just know that it is! I think that when we partner with others (think Weight Watchers, 12-step programs) we can move through the blocks easier until the new behaviors become habit.
Feel free to spread the word!

Important Disclaimer: this is not a therapy support group for issues such as any form of addiction or psychological needs. It will use the lay wisdom of its members and will be led by a life coach. It is not a substitute for medical or therapeutic support or intervention.

Friday, January 4, 2008

Do You Get It?


Over time I have noticed a similar feeling when I finish doing these three things:

Clean up after a yard sale
Finish a meal at a sushi restaurant
Hear the bell or leader’s voice after a meditation session

I couldn’t ID the feeling for a long time and also couldn’t imagine what these activities had in common, but now I’ve got it.

I feel wistful. Is it a little sad that the event is over? Is it disappointment with the outcome? Or is it that these activities don’t happen often enough and they feel good? I don’t know. I am simply noticing and I am intrigued. Do you get it?